One to One
Your heart is broken and you know you need help but your not sure what to do next. The good news is that we can help you each step of the way. Your feelings are the normal and natural reaction to loss, whether that is through bereavement or any one of over 40 other life events that invoke grief. We’ve found that the most effective way to experience the Grief Recovery Method is in a group. However we realise that there may be many reasons why this isn’t possible for you so we also offer the method on a One – One basis.
Sadly our society does not teach us how to cope with our grief. We are merely expected to “get over it in time”. But how long are we supposed to wait for the pain to go away? A month? A year? A lifetime?
"It was only as the programme developed that I was made aware and realised that I had been carrying lots of grief in my head and heart for many year"
The Grief Recovery Method has been used effectively by hundreds of thousands of grievers all over the world. The One – One Action Programme is exactly what it suggests – you working on your own recovery guided by an experienced Certified Grief Recovery Specialist. What's more the Grief Recovery Method is the only grief programme with independent research proving its effectiveness.
There is no need to wait – no matter how recent the loss The Grief Recovery Method can be used to complete the unfinished business generated by any loss and allow you, the griever, to return to a full state of “aliveness”.
If you feel you’re “existing” or “coping” rather than living fully then this programme is definitely for you.
"Having the option of the one to one course was attractive to me as I felt I was likely to hold back from expressing my feelings, concerning the death of my wife, in a group scenario. It quickly became apparent to me that I was getting so much more from the sessions than if I had read the Grief Recovery Handbook by myself. Some two months after finishing the course I certainly feel it has been of great benefit to me."
MM from Essex
What is the Grief Recovery Method One-to-One Action Programme?
It’s a 7 session step by step class in how to complete the actions necessary to recover from grief. It is not a support chat nor is it counselling or therapy.
It is a powerful, dynamic, sensible and accessible programme that is genuinely for anyone willing to take the necessary actions to help themselves.
The programme is task based with weekly homework assignments using the Grief Recovery Handbook as the reference book.
"Before I started the Grief Recovery workshop I was grief stricken lost and confused. I felt dead inside and depressed. After just a few sessions I felt relief and was less distressed - a definite improvement.”
Trish, a griever from Milton Keynes
A safe environment that allows grievers to articulate their feelings and actively take part is essential and is provided by your Certified Grief Recovery Specialist facilitating the programme.
Only those people who have been trained by an approved trainer from the Grief Recovery Institute are authorised to run this programme.
During the sessions you will look at your old beliefs and behaviours, examine what losses you have experienced through your life; then learn and take the actions that will help you complete the pain attached to those losses and let it go.
"The grief recovery process has adjusted my whole approach to dealing with loss. I am happier and healthier as result. It has inspired me to do the training and become a grief recovery specialist myself."
Yve Parkinson, Chesterfield
So if Grief is normal what’s the problem?
The problem is that while grief is a natural emotion most of what society teaches us about it and how to deal with it is intellectual.
You can’t fix a feeling using a rational argument yet our friends, family and sadly too many professionals do this every day.
For example following a death they may say “don’t be upset she’s out of pain” while the second half of this statement may be technically (rationally) true it is emotionally barren. They’ve moved the subject away from your feelings and on to those of the person who died.
This intellectualisation of grief is so endemic we barely notice it anymore. We just know when people make comments they are by and large unhelpful or even hurtful despite being uttered with the best of intentions.
Over the years of working with many thousands of grievers we’ve realised that the 6 myths associated with loss first identified by John James are almost wholly universal.
The 6 Myths
Time heals all wounds
Replace the loss
Don’t feel bad
The idea that time heals is particularly cruel. We’ve known people wait ten, twenty, thirty years and more and still be in pain. How long are they supposed to wait? The truth is that all time does is pass. It is the actions you take during that time that determine how completely you recover. The Grief Recovery Method teaches you the correct actions so you don’t have to hopelessly wait in pain.
Those around you say you have to “let go” and “move on” but they never tell you how! The Grief Recovery Method Action Program, created and evolved over the past 30 years, not only makes that possible, but provides partnerships and guidance to ensure that it happens.
"It quickly became apparent to me that I was getting so much more from the sessions than if I had read the Grief Recovery Handbook by myself. The discussion with and guidance given were invaluable."