Widows Guide to Surviving Fathers Day
Posted on 12th June 2018 at 14:30
Whether you always made a big deal of Father’s Day or it barely raised a mention in your household there is no doubt that this year it will feel like it’s everywhere and unrelenting.
Continual reminders of the life you no longer have, rubbing salt into your wounded heart.
Unfortunately, however much you want to put your head under the duvet and not come out until Tuesday you can’t. You have to continue to be both parents to your kids who also are being bombarded with images of kids playing or bonding with their Dad’s. So what can you do to get through this as best you can?
1) Make it a team effort
Talk to your kids ahead of time to discuss what they’d like to do to mark the day or not mark it at all. Be sure to let them air their ideas and show them you have listened equally you have your say too – if something is going to be too difficult for you it is OK to say so.
2) Talk to the school
Find out if there are any Father’s Day related activities going on at school and ensure your kids have options in terms of whether to take part or not.
3) Make some memories, share old ones
Is there something he always wanted to do but didn’t get a chance to? Could you do this with the kids, or something similar? For example you might not be able to get tickets to see his favourite team play but maybe you could watch a video of their famous match.
Other ideas could be:
Watching a favourite film or TV programme
Playing his favourite game or sport
Revisit a favourite place
Go through photos and videos to recall past family occasions / events
Make his favourite food / open a favoured drink maybe as a picnic in a favoured spot
Make/write cards and read them out loud for you all to hear
4) Make a memory book
Write down all your favourite quotes /sayings of his in a notebook and or paste in cards/messages /pictures. This can be added to over time.
5) Messages in water
Write messages to Dad on rice paper, roll it into a cylinder or fold the paper into a boat and float it in a lake or stream and watch it gradually sink
Above all, remember this is just another day, you got through the last one, you’ll get through the next one. Be kind to yourself always.
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